Writer suggests a day to cancel plans you dread to reclaim time

Writer Caroline Sylge recommends dedicating a day to canceling plans and commitments that people dread, a practice she calls a 'say no' retreat, according to klcc.org, wbaa.org, and whqr.org. This exercise is designed to help individuals reclaim their time and reduce stress, especially as obligations increase toward the holidays.

Sylge, who has organized health and wellness retreats for 30 years, suggests starting the day by listing all the upcoming tasks and appointments one would prefer to decline. This list can include anything from coordinating events to preparing complicated meals.

The retreat involves spending time reflecting in a comfortable space and taking a break in nature, such as a walk or bike ride, to thoughtfully consider the list of commitments. Afterwards, individuals are encouraged to say no to some of those obligations to make room for what matters most.

Sylge emphasizes that people often say yes for reasons unrelated to their well-being, such as fear of seeming difficult or missing out. She describes saying no as a brave act of self-respect, encouraging people to prioritize their own needs.

To conduct a 'say no' retreat, Sylge advises choosing a day to focus on this process, which may require adjusting work or other obligations to allow time for reflection and decision-making.