Experts discuss caregiving promises and realities for families

WITN reported on caregiving promises often made during emotional moments, such as "I'll never put you in a home" or "You can always live with me." Experts from Aging Untold explained these words come from love but may need to change as health, safety, money, and caregiver capacity evolve.

Amy O'Rourke, an aging expert, said families frequently make caregiving promises before fully discussing what caregiving entails. She emphasized the importance of having ongoing conversations about changing needs, citing an example of a man with memory impairment who was moved to a memory care facility where he thrived.

Gerontologist Sam Cradduck noted that most family caregivers are not formally trained and often rely on parenting experience, which differs from caring for adults with complex needs. He advised caregivers to be fair to themselves and communicate openly about their abilities and limitations.

Experts recommend phrasing caregiving commitments with flexibility, such as promising to do the best within one's skillset and affordability but acknowledging plans may need to change as circumstances evolve.

The discussion highlights the need for families in Elizabeth City and beyond to prepare for the realities of caregiving and maintain honest dialogue to support loved ones effectively.